My "Write" of Passage from "Adult Child of a Narcissist" to Just "Adult"
Tuesday, April 3, 2012
Innoculation
This makes a lot of sense. To me at least. Spent a lot of time, energy, and emotion trying to get my MIL to see my point of view about my father this weekend, all in vain.
It's so frustrating when they have all the facts and still don't get it. My dad still thinks that my husband somehow remembered his childhood wrong. He thinks it is inconceivable that a mother might not really love her child.
She can't even accept your point of view? Uh oh, I think she doesn't deserve the light of day from you. If you're headed to never seeing your dad again and she thinks you're the one that should stick around and send him flowers, then you're not going to have anything to talk about at lunch.
I tried that last January. I really understand why now that whenever I mentioned talking to my parents he would point to the wall. Quick reminder that hitting my head against the wall will have the same effect. Both feel so much better when I stop. Sounds like a hot chocolate weekend... sit with a favorite book and a cup of hot chocolate and be kind to you. :)
It's so frustrating when they have all the facts and still don't get it. My dad still thinks that my husband somehow remembered his childhood wrong. He thinks it is inconceivable that a mother might not really love her child.
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ReplyDeleteShe can't even accept your point of view? Uh oh, I think she doesn't deserve the light of day from you. If you're headed to never seeing your dad again and she thinks you're the one that should stick around and send him flowers, then you're not going to have anything to talk about at lunch.
ReplyDeleteI tried that last January. I really understand why now that whenever I mentioned talking to my parents he would point to the wall. Quick reminder that hitting my head against the wall will have the same effect. Both feel so much better when I stop. Sounds like a hot chocolate weekend... sit with a favorite book and a cup of hot chocolate and be kind to you. :)
ReplyDeleteLeft out why my counselor would point to the wall. oops.
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