Friday, June 7, 2013

New Analogy

I have started to think about my early relationship with my parents in a new way.

I no longer - having, of course, first gone through such a long phase of anger, blaming, and analyzing, which I'm perfectly happy with - need to think about the "relationship" we had. Or them, really, too much.

I see it this way: yes, this early stuff, and love, and parents, all of this is very important. It's like developing language in children. If a child is not communicated with in early childhood, she will have trouble learning language.

Well, I realized recently that, no, my parents never taught me the language of love, but that, yes, I am able to speak it with others now. It's not easy, it's not my mother tongue, I make mistakes or just don't know how to express myself, but I'm slowly getting there. And this is all that currently matters to me. I don't need to think about the fact that my parents failed me in this department so much any more. I just want to focus on the department itself, because that's what matters.

Therapy helped with that. Mostly, my therapist helped me allow myself to not feel anything much for my parents. And be OK with that. Because I feel things for other people, which means I learned language later in life - which is harder to do, but not impossible.

My new version of the recurring dream in which I discover that I actually never graduated from high school and thus my university degree and graduate degrees are invalid? I go back to school, ask around and really, there are a couple of classes that I never finished owing to an error of sorts. I never really graduated. But, also, the administration overlooked this. They gave me a diploma. I officially and validly graduated, even though I missed some things. No one will cause me any trouble or blame me for not completing those courses so long ago, especially given how far I've come since. I can freely go on with my life and, in the dream, I choose to do so.

In my life, I choose to do so as well.

I'm where I am and will be focusing on that now. Working on my doctoral dissertation, embracing new career opportunities assertively, actively making friends with people I find interesting, enjoying my family.


  1. That's a great analogy, PA

  2. (Standing ovation, PA.)
    It takes what it takes to get to the point of almost disinterest or detachment. In my world, the word is "Acceptance." They are who they are (shrugs shoulders.) Was my world informed in a major way by Psychob? Of course.
    But it's also been informed by all kinds of wonderful people, opportunities etc. that would never have happened had I stayed "stuck." We can't change the past but that doesn't mean the present or the future or most importantly we have been somehow foreclosed as a result.
    I'm pleased beyond words for you, PA. Congratulations!

  3. Great analogy on the language. Helps me to be a little more patient with myself when I feel I am floundering. And the absence of feeling for the N-parent, that's a great benchmark. Congrats on all the accomplishments!

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