tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855431321052371348.post99205777392494115..comments2023-05-24T16:57:15.030+02:00Comments on Writing the Wrongs of Narcissistic Parenting: At my older daughter's birthday. Barely Breathing. Sad. But still, only hesitatingly...Pronoia Agapehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07818746040570182407noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855431321052371348.post-23987547411663148262012-02-16T09:52:55.086+01:002012-02-16T09:52:55.086+01:00Yes! Thank you! That's exactly it - denied per...Yes! Thank you! That's exactly it - denied personhood. Being reduced to less than an animal.<br /><br />And thank you, I know rationally that I didn't abandon her - but the feelings I had then were so irrational and strong. Now it makes more sense why I'd feel that way.Pronoia Agapehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07818746040570182407noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855431321052371348.post-78037089836310526012012-02-11T16:32:50.199+01:002012-02-11T16:32:50.199+01:00I hate hearing abusive parents talk about how they...I hate hearing abusive parents talk about how they raise(d) their children. It hurts to hear how the children's personhood is denied. I had a similar experience at one of my son's second birthday party, and again at a nephew's birthday party. Only a disordered person thinks it's a good idea to tell a parent to ignore their overwhelmed, over-tired child. <br /><br />Because we're so sensitive to the neglectful or actively harmful things that our parents do/did, I think we can sometimes be too hard on ourselves when we have moments like yours in the bathroom. You did not fail your baby! Babies do indeed slowly learn to wait from normal, natural delays like that one. No mother can be 100% available all the time. Babies do NOT learn to wait from adults forcing isolation on them. Two totally different things. You did not abandon your baby!Clairehttp://aconography.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.com