tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855431321052371348.post5357699144778841972..comments2023-05-24T16:57:15.030+02:00Comments on Writing the Wrongs of Narcissistic Parenting: "Love your neighbor as yourself"Pronoia Agapehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07818746040570182407noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855431321052371348.post-27832251077975675712011-04-08T18:43:45.522+02:002011-04-08T18:43:45.522+02:00For me, it was actually the other way around. Firs...For me, it was actually the other way around. First I let myself just enjoy my family and unblock my love for them and then I realized I already did love them, but I thought I didn't because I thought I had to achieve so much, but didn't feel the same about them - they were fine the way they were. So because I wasn't as "ambitious" for them I thought I didn't love them. But then I realized that I could love them, I only didn't really love myself - they were fine whatever they did, but I never was. So only then did I slowly start loving myself too.Pronoia Agapehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07818746040570182407noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855431321052371348.post-74388346491793385382011-04-04T11:02:01.287+02:002011-04-04T11:02:01.287+02:00Beautifully said. This would make a nice article F...Beautifully said. This would make a nice article FOR narcissists who need to know what love is :). I do agree we need to accept (and love) ourselves before we are fully able to love others, especially our children. Understanding what the way I was parented did to me and how it affected me helped me be a more loving parent, free from the crazy stuff I might otherwise feel obliged to engage in. <br /><br />"My" N just sent out a group mail to about 50 people about a friend who has cancer (acute leukemia) and is getting treatment. It was ALL about how the "dying" (despite excellent survival rates!) person affected the N's emotional state. Nice. Another lesson in what real love does not look like.Write About Birthhttp://www.writeaboutbirth.comnoreply@blogger.com