tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855431321052371348.post43982944435429490..comments2023-05-24T16:57:15.030+02:00Comments on Writing the Wrongs of Narcissistic Parenting: Something is rottenPronoia Agapehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07818746040570182407noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855431321052371348.post-81678746416144612632011-07-01T10:47:15.758+02:002011-07-01T10:47:15.758+02:00Thanks, Ruth!
Lisa: No, nothing really, his whole...Thanks, Ruth!<br /><br />Lisa: No, nothing really, his whole side of the family looks quite different from me AND my kids. My aut's going to ask a distant relative from my mother's side of the family who MUST know, when she visits in September. If that doesn't yield conclusive info, then I'll take the "snatch some DNA" route. ;)<br /><br />My current take on that? He claims to be my father; therefore he owes me some of his DNA, one way or the other...Pronoia Agapehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07818746040570182407noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855431321052371348.post-73259986901815193532011-07-01T09:08:44.759+02:002011-07-01T09:08:44.759+02:00hmm interesting interesting. i look a lot like my ...hmm interesting interesting. i look a lot like my dad. in fact, i look nothing like my mom. i think no one would tell we were related. cept every once in a while, at a certain angle and just for a moment, you can sort of see the ghost of her. i'm dark, she's light. our builds are different. we do share one thing though, a proclivity towards drawing. i know this came from her.<br />i think it's very hard to at least not share some aspect with a parent. if you can't even see the ghost of your dad somewhere on your mind and body...<br />hmmm.<br />oh ANOTHER thing to consider is other relatives on his side. i share a few characteristics with mom's side of the family. i got my thighs and weaker chin from her side, i share this with some of my aunts and cousins.<br />i guess not finding anything wouldn't be 100% proof negative..but it would play in with your heart's suspicions..<br />it sounds like maybe you already feel in your heart that he is not your real father..<br />wow..i'm starting to feel it too.<br />it makes sense, look at him!<br />r u gonna snatch some dna? do it, do it!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855431321052371348.post-48920930949283110182011-07-01T07:57:58.423+02:002011-07-01T07:57:58.423+02:00Lisette, indeed. I will try to know for sure. It d...Lisette, indeed. I will try to know for sure. It does mean something to me to find out. Thank you for the comment.<br /><br />Lisa, I look nothing like him, but I always assumed that was because I inherited my mother's features. I mean, it is genetically possible not to look like one parent at all, so I can't take it as proof. Thanks!<br /><br />Karen, thank you. No, we don't have to feel so alone. There are ways to find out if he's my biological father or not, but not before September or October. Until then, I can only look for clues in my memory. If it was a donor, I'm not hoping I'll ever meet him.Pronoia Agapehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07818746040570182407noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855431321052371348.post-78358441886997010842011-07-01T07:55:57.663+02:002011-07-01T07:55:57.663+02:00Lies are difficult to deal with when they finally ...Lies are difficult to deal with when they finally come to light of truth. But lies that are layered with lies with partial truths about your origin, I can imagine the feeling of 'who am I' you are experiencing. I hope you can find information that will satisfy your need to know or you can find some feeling of closure. <br />Hugs (((PA)))Ruthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07083142637240943607noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855431321052371348.post-77138131245523220412011-07-01T02:49:22.326+02:002011-07-01T02:49:22.326+02:00My older sister told me a while ago that my father...My older sister told me a while ago that my father was not my father and that my mother was sleeping with a few different guys right before I was born. She is seven years older than I am so I believed her when she finally decided to tell me. Its funny because I never felt like my father was my father anyway. I have felt that way since I was very young. So, I called my father to ask him if he was my father. He said that he would always love me like a daughter, and then he said that he was not. I kind of got that clue the moment he said, "I will always love..." etc.<br />I would have asked my mother but she had always told that she was raped and that is how I was born. It is frustrating not knowing the truth but some where in these lies I think they told the truth by accident. I think that my mother had an affair and it sounds better to say you were raped. That is the kind of person she is sadly. But your story is all messed like mine, so I feel like its O.K. to share this today. Maybe we don't have to feel so alone. I do wish that I knew who it was, but I guess its not in the cards I hold for my life. I hope that it is in your cards though. Best of luck with finding the real truth.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15795074160551769210noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855431321052371348.post-28764675269610503382011-06-30T22:42:56.589+02:002011-06-30T22:42:56.589+02:00hmmm..can't you tell by looking at your featur...hmmm..can't you tell by looking at your features? do you and him not share any features? body wise and face wise?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855431321052371348.post-74105878257368486512011-06-30T19:57:45.791+02:002011-06-30T19:57:45.791+02:00The plot thickens. This must be weighing on you Pr...The plot thickens. This must be weighing on you Pronoia. Now that you have been alerted to the possibility - that your NF may not be blood - you will probably find more clues pointing to that outcome. It must be difficult to deal with the unknown. I hope your questions are answered and you find closure.Lisettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00126679148325637594noreply@blogger.com