tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855431321052371348.post3718148074498076227..comments2023-05-24T16:57:15.030+02:00Comments on Writing the Wrongs of Narcissistic Parenting: Picture PerfectPronoia Agapehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07818746040570182407noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855431321052371348.post-68271954749169586402011-05-05T19:49:16.979+02:002011-05-05T19:49:16.979+02:00Wow, Lisa that's a really informative comment ...Wow, Lisa that's a really informative comment for me -- all of it, but esp. "i didnt know how to have fun." <br /><br />I like your perspective in your last comment: all the photos are through the N's eyes anyways.<br /><br />My N had a photo of themselves photoshopped and really liked it - they were hyper-critical of what they perceived as physical flaws in photos. I don't think the N understood people are *more* than whatever physical attributes they have, and that even attributes that are considered conventionally negative don't matter once you get to know someone. I'm not certain they ever got that far with someone to experience that.PWChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17908795804539211663noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855431321052371348.post-9911151368952880562011-05-05T01:45:13.660+02:002011-05-05T01:45:13.660+02:00cause they're all through my mother's eyes...cause they're all through my mother's eyes.lisanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855431321052371348.post-38554787014221115352011-05-05T01:43:02.275+02:002011-05-05T01:43:02.275+02:00we dont take pictures at all anymore. probably bec...we dont take pictures at all anymore. probably because my mom is so freaking vain and obsessed with herself that she actively hates and says she hates all pictures of herself so she takes the fun out of that.<br />but we do have photo albums of pictures of me since birth through childhood. my mom put them all together very neatly and cutesily. i bet now she would say that those were symbols/labors of her love. the pictures are absolutely boring and make me feel kind of sick. i'm not a happy baby in any of the boring repetitive pictures, 10 pictures of me just lying there in the same spot with a completely unsmiling sort of pained expression on my face. i wish she would have actually done something to make me smile instead of waste time taking so many freaking pictures of me doing nothing.<br />i'm smiling in like one or two out of 100 pictures.<br />THEN, as soon as i hit a 'competent' age, i'm smiling and posing in all the pictures. not a single candid picture of me doing something fun and smiling. no, posing and performing and looking good for the camera was all i knew. i didnt know how to have fun. i can hear my mom, going 'oh you were so cute and good back then, all the smiling and posing.' ugh.<br />i used to wish i had a picture of me as a kid. one to keep. but i realize actually that i dont want to see any of those pictures again. there are no pictures of me as a kid.lisanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855431321052371348.post-12608387594462830522011-05-04T23:22:22.783+02:002011-05-04T23:22:22.783+02:00Weird. The Dragon was opposite of this. She has ...Weird. The Dragon was opposite of this. She has very few pictures of us (my brothers and I). In the few she does have, we all look miserable. <br /><br />It wasn't until after we were grown, and she was up our asses all the time, did she break out the camera. She drags that damn thing around with her all the time now.<br /><br />Her camera use certainly reflexs the attention she paid/pays.... ignored when we were young, harassed once we became adults.<br /><br />Complete opposite.... I guess we needed to accomplish something before she was comfortable bragging about how wonderful we are!<br /><br />Oh Happy Day!Number One Nuthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13978269711029128738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855431321052371348.post-39338967612387896522011-05-04T22:03:39.480+02:002011-05-04T22:03:39.480+02:00Only narcs would need to prove to their adult chil...Only narcs would need to prove to their adult children that they were happy with pictures of their "smiling faces". And to others, of course, because it's all about impressions. <br /><br />When you make a small mention that you didn't quite feel like that at times, he can prove you're wrong and he's right!nolongerrunninghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10233202220418917403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855431321052371348.post-24757009381086129662011-05-04T21:32:16.272+02:002011-05-04T21:32:16.272+02:00LSV, they're all so similar. It gets boring.
...LSV, they're all so similar. It gets boring.<br /><br />Jonsi, Yes, they own and can do what they want. My father had a photoshop-altered version of his girlfriend placed on our family computer while I was still living with him. It was offensive to both me, whose late mother's picture had not yet been removed from the other room, and to her, because she was given a stripper's body that her head was placed onto, ad I'm sure it wasn't to her liking, as she's a sane, decent woman. But he enjoyed the ownership.<br /><br />GKA, good observation! Actually, in some of those pics I did look happy, but he kept repeating it like it should have been followed by "Yes, Father, thank you for making me so demonstrably happy as a child! You're the greatest!"Pronoia Agapehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07818746040570182407noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855431321052371348.post-62225135090968195322011-05-04T19:12:51.847+02:002011-05-04T19:12:51.847+02:00Wow. 'Look how happy you are.'
Does anyon...Wow. 'Look how happy you are.'<br /><br />Does anyone find that Ns make odd mistakes in interpreting people's facial expressions in pictures?<br /><br />-GKAAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855431321052371348.post-17567806876407930012011-05-04T18:33:38.129+02:002011-05-04T18:33:38.129+02:00For me, there is the added issue that "I own ...For me, there is the added issue that "I own the photo and can do whatever I want with it." Even if we explicitly say, Don't share these photos, or please, respect our privacy...the narcs have this a sense of entitlement, that, they feel allows them to do whatever they want anyway. They can exploit these images for their own personal gain and it's really sick.<br /><br />I'm sorry PA, that your father's photographs are more precious to him than you are. It's his loss.Jonsihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17517677634712242866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855431321052371348.post-1587437840527069042011-05-04T17:48:39.728+02:002011-05-04T17:48:39.728+02:00Glad you managed to escape that control! I feel fo...Glad you managed to escape that control! I feel for the Little You in those pictures. My mother has albums and albums of photos, mainly of me and my sister. I used to think that it was just becuase she loved us. Now I think it's becuase she wanted ownership of us...her children. And to that I say: I'm nobody's property but my ownAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com