tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855431321052371348.post1716543713198800807..comments2023-05-24T16:57:15.030+02:00Comments on Writing the Wrongs of Narcissistic Parenting: Enough!Pronoia Agapehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07818746040570182407noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855431321052371348.post-42294294033837117502011-09-24T02:37:41.790+02:002011-09-24T02:37:41.790+02:00you are not being rude. HE is being rude. and an a...you are not being rude. HE is being rude. and an ass. and many other things. being annoyed or angered or frustrated by someone who is so annoying, angering, frustrating and evil is not being rude. really, at this point, i don't care what you say or do or whatever to him, it's his fucking fault.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855431321052371348.post-66867893184911153312011-09-14T21:50:57.490+02:002011-09-14T21:50:57.490+02:00Ruth, I know! I have discovered the same thing, bu...Ruth, I know! I have discovered the same thing, but have a hard time saying "Not right now"! I just agreed to an insanely short deadline because the narcissistic author I'm translating the book for guilted me into it. Thank you for the kind comment.Pronoia Agapehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07818746040570182407noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855431321052371348.post-70814036530755738762011-09-14T21:46:29.786+02:002011-09-14T21:46:29.786+02:00GKA, thanks. Yes, very creepy. So far, I've ju...GKA, thanks. Yes, very creepy. So far, I've just been ignoring him but my conditioning makes me feel guilty for being so rude.Pronoia Agapehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07818746040570182407noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855431321052371348.post-71296921351033572492011-09-13T09:02:41.065+02:002011-09-13T09:02:41.065+02:00I had a fascinating discovery this year. What see...I had a fascinating discovery this year. What seems rude to me goes clear over the narcissistics head. However, what I believe is reasonable, sends them off thinking I am the rudest person in the world. I am learning to say, 'No, not right now.' I was calm. I was clear. I didn't add more. My definition of polite is what I do now. When pressed for a time commitment my reply is calm, 'I don't know when.' The image I use now is how would I handle a 3 year old having a temper tantrum. Since the 3 year old's goal is to get what they want, calmly denying is what I feel comfortable doing. I am liking this way of treating NM and fortunately it is working for me. She is not happy but I am not trying to 'make' her happy any more. Good luck because I know others that have not had the same results with saying no to a parent used to getting their way. <br />PS I really understand. Glad to know you are busy and OK. Looking forward to hearing more when you are more relaxed and less busy. :)Ruthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07083142637240943607noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855431321052371348.post-89208603712274423962011-09-13T04:23:15.734+02:002011-09-13T04:23:15.734+02:00Persistent photo requests to that extent are creep...Persistent photo requests to that extent are creepy. Yes, you are entitled to use the mother-voice. Or to ignore him.<br /><br />- GKAAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855431321052371348.post-62683269465052101982011-09-12T22:47:06.563+02:002011-09-12T22:47:06.563+02:00Hey, I totally forgot that! Wow! Thank you!
I kee...Hey, I totally forgot that! Wow! Thank you!<br /><br />I keep reverting to the role of a potentially rude, unkind, guilty daughter. I don't want to send more pictures. But I don't know how to politely make this clearer than it already should be.<br /><br />Now. Just flirting with this makes me feel so very guilty. But: how would my evil narcissistic grandma handle this? I'll think about it...Pronoia Agapehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07818746040570182407noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855431321052371348.post-40190404285508317332011-09-12T22:02:46.268+02:002011-09-12T22:02:46.268+02:00I think you already have your answer on No No Cont...I think you already have your answer on No No Contact post:<br /><br />"I was able to draw some important boundaries and it appears that my father sees his narcissistic mother, who he was terrified of, in me, and will behave himself if confronted."<br /><br />Time to show him his own NM! ;)Deborahnoreply@blogger.com